Love

It is difficult to be complimented for your virtues in heaven or to be criticized for the lack of them in hell. That is perhaps why human beings fall for angels and angels fly away. Perhaps, they have their own angels to fall for, in their own world…







“What is love?” is an eternal question. This article is not about answering it, it is about talking about the experiences I’ve had while trying to find an answer to it. Mind well, answers to this question are subjective. This is just what I think.

Sometimes you meet someone and that someone changes you completely. They’re usually the times when you’re low about something and then that someone suddenly enters and teaches either of the two: to solve your problems if they’re soluble or to live with them cheerfully and gracefully as if they don’t exist. As if their existence doesn’t make any difference in your life. These are not people as far as you are concerned, these are angels who make your world a better place for you to live in. Their approach to life fascinates you. They don’t teach you anything you don’t know, they just remind what you’ve forgotten.

The most fascinating part about these angels is that they do all this quite casually. They’re just themselves, acting like themselves and casually, they’re making you like themselves.

But this feeling is not always reciprocated. Many times your attitude is not something that fascinates him. May be he makes your world better, but angels come from another world and you may not always have something that makes you an angel in an angel’s world. That is the reason why I find finding love is so difficult. It’s difficult to be an angel for someone who’s an angel to you.

I have discussed this topic several times with several people and particularly in detail with a dear friend who loved someone once too but before she could tell him, he once casually said “We’re so good friends, but I can never see us in that relation.” After this, she never asked. They’re still friends, he still changes her and is big contributor to the current her. But still, they’re just friends.

Then one day you start understanding it really isn’t about changing. Not all problems can be solved with one attitude of one person who fascinates you. It really isn’t about changing you. It is more about accepting you as you are. It is about being able to bear the whims and fancies of the other without asking or telling the reasons for them. It is the simplicity and the comfort in the relation. About hearing both, what is said and what is unsaid. Hearing the unsaid takes time but being comfortable and understanding the unsaid is important. It is not a sexy figure, cute looks or lot of money. They’re just three simple words “I Love you” and everything unsaid that goes with them.

The Happy Prince.